Ways Women Orgasm

Women’s sexual arousal relies on sexual fantasies

admin — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 23:01:47 +0000

Real female orgasms involve the release of sexual emotions not romantic feelings. So it does not matter how much you love your partner, orgasm will not materialise out of thin air.

Orgasm requires at least a few naughty thoughts from time to time, so if your conscience is as clear as a nun’s then you can forget about ever having one. “Few of us reach orgasm Continue reading →

Most women are not aiming for orgasm through genital stimulation

admin — Mon, 17 Jun 2013 23:01:49 +0000

Some women refer to 'making love' because the term more accurately describes their motives in terms of loving emotions rather than as an explicit sex drive.

Modern expectations cause some women to talk about their sexual experiences (whatever they are) in terms of arousal and orgasm. Some women knowingly fake orgasm but there is almost a sense of bravado associated with faking. We assume that women only fake Continue reading →

Some women never tune into eroticism

admin — Sun, 16 Jun 2013 23:01:51 +0000

Angela, a woman in her early twenties, was having relationship problems with her boyfriend of six months. She was upset that he enjoyed looking at other women. She got him to agree to stop buying pornographic magazines, which she found demeaning.

”Porn to men is not a big deal. They honestly can’t see how watching a sexy film can be any sort of reflection on their love for Continue reading →

Women have to learn how to orgasm

admin — Sat, 15 Jun 2013 23:01:09 +0000

In the film ‘Shirley Valentine’ (1989), Pauline Collins plays Shirley, a middle-aged housewife. Shirley comments: “I’m not particularly fond of it – sex.

I think sex is like supermarkets, you know, overrated. Just a lot of pushing and shoving and you still come out with very little in the end.” (Note: this film was set in the days before supermarkets sold everything from clothes to microwaves!) Shirley Continue reading →

The sexual politics of female sexual desire

admin — Fri, 14 Jun 2013 23:01:23 +0000

Although the modern day hype about female sexuality was in part sparked off by the work of Alfred Kinsey, the facts he reported have long since been lost in the rush to sensationalise female sexual desire.

Kinsey’s report clearly set out the much lower sexual response of the female (as measured by the incidence of orgasm) and the incredible range in sexual responsiveness reported by women Continue reading →

Defending the modern image of female sexuality

admin — Thu, 13 Jun 2013 23:01:15 +0000

As a young woman I never understood why I did not experience sexual arousal as a natural part of my sexual relationship. Much later I decided to talk to experts, assuming that they would have some answers, but I was met only with evasion and silence.

The issue of women's sexual arousal and orgasm with a partner is surrounded by mis-information, contrary opinions and, above all, defensiveness Continue reading →

Holding men responsible for women’s sexual arousal

admin — Wed, 12 Jun 2013 23:01:37 +0000

Men are often blamed, unfairly, for the difficulties that women have with orgasm during sex. For example, it is suggested that, by coming too soon, a man fails to provide enough stimulation.

In fact, intercourse is unlikely to provide women with enough clitoral stimulation regardless of how long the man keeps thrusting for. “Closely linked with the traditional pressure on men to maintain long erection Continue reading →

Sexual fact versus sexual fantasy

admin — Tue, 11 Jun 2013 23:01:24 +0000

Imagine the scenario: a woman, wearing a skirt and no panties, climbs a ladder. A man below enjoys a clear view of her genitals. Imagine now that the genders are reversed: my point is that a woman is unlikely to appreciate the view in the same way that a man does.

Of course, someone will always disagree. A man said: “It depends from woman to woman, because if they Continue reading →

Women who want to enjoy sexual pleasure

admin — Mon, 10 Jun 2013 23:01:42 +0000

When I was growing up there was never any embarrassment over nudity at home. As divorcees, my parents naturally enjoyed sexual relationships with various partners from time to time.

So I have never seen any reason why I should not enjoy the same easy sexual arousal and orgasm apparently promised by erotic fiction. Especially since I have been lucky enough to have:

enthusiasm for erotic

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Sheltering young women from eroticism

admin — Sun, 09 Jun 2013 23:01:31 +0000

Reading the word ‘sexy’, a boy of nine screwed up his face in a gesture of disgust and said “Yuck!”. I asked him why and he replied, “Because my parents told me it’s disgusting”. Presumably these parents are trying to warn their son away from the temptations of sexual pleasure with its associated immoral behaviour.

For women, there has always been acceptance of sex within the context Continue reading →