Ways Women Orgasm

Lust is good

I suppose that I have been lucky. My sexual desire to enjoy my own sexual arousal and orgasm is evid­ently unusual for a woman.

I know that this is unusual because most women talk of love, trust and commit­ment. From time to time, I posit­ively enjoy jumping on my man.

But it doesn’t work like that, does it? Even if a woman climbs on top (done it many times) she’s still stim­u­lating his penis with her vagina.

I always enjoyed flir­ta­tion and provoking a sexual response in a man. Other women often seem to be more at ease with the whole female package, including preg­nancy and moth­ering. I preferred the image of the woman who aspired to mutual sexual pleasure with her man.

Well it’s not that easy. At least I never found it easy. I guess I was hoping for the wrong things. Women hope for babies and I got those. Men hope for good sex. For me, I always felt that sex was always over-sold, least­ways where women are concerned.

I haven’t met a woman who has even hinted at lust. There’s super­fi­cial bravado but no heart-to-hearts. Not one woman has ever talked about sexual frus­tra­tion. I reckon there’s plenty about if you’re a woman.

Someone please tell me I’m wrong and that if I were a true woman I would be happy with loving feel­ings from my sexual rela­tion­ships. I guess I landed on the wrong planet and out there some­where things are more equal. Men share the babies and women share the joy of sexual lust.

Until then, dream on babes…

Images of women from porno­graphy often define the ‘sexual woman’. Yet such women are PAID not just for being attractive but more import­antly because they are talented at putting on an act. Faking arousal and orgasm keeps the customers happy.

Men also often pay for dates that lead to casual sex, which is vastly improved by the ego factor (the thrill of the chase and the conquest for both sexes). This compet­i­tion silences women in long-term rela­tion­ships (who can’t possibly compete) and makes it diffi­cult to identify women’s true sexual desire, including their motiv­a­tion to initiate sex by enjoying erotic material, masturb­ating and exploring genit­ally based sexual activ­ities with a partner over the LONGER term.

Female arousal is taboo because (1) men don’t want their sexual fantasies dashed and (2) women don’t want to be thought to be sexu­ally inad­equate. Sadly male and female sexu­ality are different because we have comple­mentary not identical roles.

The fact is that female orgasm is much, much more diffi­cult to achieve with a partner than is commonly suggested. The core of the problem is that women use sexual fantasies during masturb­a­tion but these are often diffi­cult to use to reach orgasm with a partner espe­cially if they are surreal or kinky in nature (which they usually are).

I am not trying to belittle men by suggesting that women delib­er­ately deceive them (although this is some­times true). Equally, I’m not trying to belittle women who are convinced that orgasm happens the first time and every time during sex.

I’m just pointing out to those who know what orgasm is from masturb­a­tion that other women are, often quite inno­cently, mistaken. Since they never masturbate they never learn how their sexual arousal works or how to reach orgasm by any means.

Think your­self lucky…

Excerpt from Ways Women Orgasm (ISBN 978−095689−4700 published 2011)

6 comments for “Lust is good

  1. Nathaniel Hines
    December 2, 2014 at 10:53 am

    Inter­esting to hear your perspective. With similar exper­i­ences, I applaud your efforts to inform.

  2. mona37
    January 12, 2015 at 12:14 pm

    i think what you talk about is essen­tial for a long term rela­tion­ship!
    the whole package gets boring after a bit for both i guess.
    the provoking part is most fun for me!

  3. Kevin Cartrette
    January 25, 2015 at 1:52 pm

    May I be bold and say that you are a very beau­tiful woman! I’ve read some of your articles, you are a big turn on!

  4. Jane
    January 25, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    Thanks Kevin — that is very nice of you to say so! Some people seem to be very offended by what I am saying. I wish more were like you!

  5. Kevin Cartrette
    January 25, 2015 at 3:43 pm

    The pleasure is mine! I wish more women were outspoken like you! I seri­ously can read your articles and get an erec­tion! I just read one and I have one now! You are a big turn on for me!

  6. Jane
    January 25, 2015 at 5:16 pm

    No problem — enjoy!

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