Ways Women Orgasm

Male nudity does not cause female sexual arousal

The naked male body can be a beautiful sight and yet our heterosexual society is dominated by images of women’s bodies. The ancient Greeks were more relaxed about homosexuality and statues indicate their appreciation of the sensual male nude.

Gay men certainly appreciate the naked male, including male genitals but women are often offended by nudity, especially genitals, and so nudity is censored in our society.

Andrew Stanway’s film ‘The Lover’s Guide’ (1991) was a break-through in British censorship of films for general release. He was allowed to show the erect penis for the first time but only because his films were intended for educational purposes.

The film ‘The Wedding Date’ (2005) includes a scene where Dermot Mulroney is relaxed about appearing naked in front of a woman (as if!). The woman’s horrified reaction to a man’s genitals not only indicates how female sexuality differs to male sexuality but also provides a clue as to why women’s sexual arousal is much more elusive with a partner.

Men have more to lose by appearing naked because an erection betrays their intimate thoughts. Men don’t want to expose themselves for fear of being sized up or becoming aroused under scrutiny. ‘The Full Monty’ (1997) indicates men’s insecurities over nudity.

Men’s sexual arousal arises from looking at images of the naked body of a sexual partner, which explains the daily sales of pornographic magazines.

Women, who have learned about their own sexual arousal through female masturbation, know that women do not use images of naked men for arousal. Women have to take a much more conscious approach to sexual arousal through highly explicit sexual fantasies.

As always, someone will disagree: “For instance, I’m an XX female, and yet am extremely visual and highly aroused by the nudity and genitals of partners of all genders, including men.” This woman was happy to admit that she was bisexual but she was not willing to say whether she could masturbate to orgasm. So who knows whether she has ever had an orgasm.

Regardless of these claims, there are few pornographic magazines for heterosexual women. ‘Playgirl’ is an exception but presumably has another audience. Even the UK magazine ‘Scarlet’ marketed for sexual women, avoids images of couples engaged in explicit sexual activity.

“Many females consider that male genitalia are ugly and repulsive in appearance, and the observation of the male genitalia may actually inhibit their erotic responses.

… there seems no doubt that these reactions largely depend upon the fact that most females are not psychologically stimulated, as males are, by objects which are associated with sex.

… only a small percentage of homosexual females is ever aroused erotically by seeing the genitalia of other females.” (p655-6 ‘Sexual behavior in the human female’ by Alfred Kinsey published 1953)

My own nakedness has never bothered me but men’s interest in women’s bodies teaches us to become self-conscious. Women’s bodies are constantly being scrutinised not only by men but also by women. Any woman with a less than perfect body is ridiculed because the assumption is that a woman only displays her body in public to attract male attention.

‘The Calendar Girls’ (2003) tells the story of a group of middle-aged women who posed naked, but tastefully, for a calendar. It caused uproar because they were not young women with flawless bodies but women who had given birth or grown old.

Nudity causes men to think about sex even more than usual and they mistakenly assume that women have the same sexual motivations. While I was sunbathing on a nudist beach, one woman bent over to get sun cream out of her bag and my partner suggested that she must have done so deliberately so that the men on the beach could enjoy looking at her genitals.

The fact is that she was much more likely to be just getting sun cream out of her bag! That comment made me aware of needing to keep my legs firmly together on the beach. I have been most relaxed when on a gay nudist beach in Mikonos, Greece because I didn’t have to worry that anyone might assume that I was sunbathing nude as a means of making a sexual invitation.

Excerpt from Jane’s book Ways Women Orgasm (2011)

7 comments for “Male nudity does not cause female sexual arousal

  1. Jerry W.
    October 17, 2017 at 10:16 am

    I can tell you love your job. If you ever need a volunteer for research let me know.

    …wow so you must be great in bed! Do you think size matters?

  2. Jane
    October 17, 2017 at 11:49 am

    Thanks Jerry! Actually I don’t make any money so I’m not sure it’s a job as such. More of a passionate hobby. Unfortunately research is not as interesting as it sounds. Of course a researcher must have some practical experience… but what is much more important is that they can differentiate between fact and fiction. Most people can’t…

    Size matters primarily to men. Women want affection and sensual touching. Intercourse provides very little sensation. Also listen to her … Women like to talk and feel that someone cares…

  3. Jerry W.
    October 17, 2017 at 12:32 pm

    You don’t know how hard that is for a man to do.

  4. Jane
    October 17, 2017 at 3:12 pm

    Women are not especially interested in sex either but they feign interest to please their partner. You can do the same but usually women want to talk for longer than men are able to provide intercourse! In bed women enjoy being admired and caressed. Relaxing massage and other non-sexual touching compensates for the lack of arousal to some extent. Men are bored by such things but this is why women don’t want sex. Because it involves investing in someone else’s pleasure with no payback for yourself. Hope this helps…

  5. Jerry W.
    October 17, 2017 at 5:50 pm

    why yes it does…and it make sense. So you’re suggesting men should admire, talk, and caress a woman to truly please her? Interesting…but wait there are some exceptions to this right? I mean what about the woman that craves a big penis or want a guy who can go for hours and hours – What category do they fall under?

  6. Jane
    October 17, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    Pornography…

  7. Jerry W.
    October 17, 2017 at 8:27 pm

    hahahahahahahaha!!! Gotcha.

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