My aim is to provide more clarity over HOW and WHEN women orgasm. Masturbation is the easiest and most reliable source of female orgasms but, since it doesn’t benefit men and relatively few women masturbate, female masturbation remains taboo.
Kinsey emphasised the huge range in sexual responsiveness that should be considered ‘normal’ for different individuals. He also concluded that men are MUCH MORE responsive than women. Yet today no one acknowledges this range of orgasmic ability.
A woman becomes pregnant regardless of whether she has an orgasm. So women are only thought to be ‘dysfunctional’ as a result of modern expectations for female orgasm, which have been set by the subjective evidence of women’s say-so. Even so only SOME women claim to orgasm SOMETIMES with a lover.
Women who talk about orgasm in public are referring to the emotional rewards of sex. The need for mental turn-ons and clitoral stimulation is dwarfed by the passion of ‘making love’.
Media images that exaggerate women’s true sexual responsiveness are so persuasive that women today are almost obliged to refer to orgasm as if it occurs naturally in their sexual relationships. We rarely acknowledge that public bravado is very different to the personal conclusions most of us keep private.
Sexual Pleasure Meeting on February 17th 2012. For your FREE slides with notes: Download
References: (1) Joan Sewell (American author): ‘I’d rather eat chocolate’. (2) Kathy Lette (British writer): ‘What women want’. (3) Bettina Arndt (Australian author and therapist): ‘The Sex Diaries’.
Past presentations/appearances include:
- Carnal Conversations at Home House, London (supporting Colin Richards) on January 9th 2013
- The Sex Therapy Training Institute in Miami (invited by Dr Carol Clark) on March 10th 2012
- The Porterbrook Clinic in Sheffield (invited by Professor Kevan Wylie) on March 15th 2012
I am willing to travel to most locations to take up opportunities to promote my work on female orgasm. Please contact: Jane Thomas founder of ‘Ways Women Orgasm’ or call me: SamNosper on Skype!
Both of Jane’s books are now available to buy online in the US & the UK. ‘More info’.