Comments on: Men are fascinated by sex

By: Jane

Jane — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 22:16:25 +0000

My suggestion is not that women are more virtuous than men but that women have a lower sex drive and so are less likely to be tempted…

Kinsey also commented on this point in 1953.

I think in a liberal society there is the possibility of accepting that we are all different. I don’t personally see much value in casual sex (especially for the woman) but I do see the value in having sex before making a life-long committment to one person.

Sex involves both sexual pleasure (through sexual arousal and orgasm) and reproduction (through relationships and family). Both sexes should be able to respect both of these perspectives but it is likley that men will gain more from sexual pleasure. For the most part, only men are willing to pay for sex.

By: Ziauddin Asif

Ziauddin Asif — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 20:28:05 +0000

Yes I think you are right, it is built-in psychology of men to have sex with strangers; like as you said . And so is the quality of women as you discussed about the experience of the lady of late twenties. In-spite of this built-in psychology in men and I think also in women, should not be occurred because in my opinion this behavior spoils the beauty of society and family and should also not be appreciated. Nevertheless, many will disagree, but actually the sexual relation should be strictly limited to your life partner.

By: Jane

Jane — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 15:27:51 +0000

Thanks for all the positive comments.

Mona37, my point is that women do not screw around because they don’t have the same incentive that men have. Men can enjoy sex (at least potentially) with any woman as long as they find her sexually attractive. This is because they experience easy sexual arousal and orgasm.

My point is that if women had the same experience then they would do the exact same thing. Obviously a few women do but they are not respected (by men or women) because we all know that women don’t have the same justification for wanting sex.

Sexual arousal and orgasm are not automatic for women as they are for men. So women are much more likely to be having casual sex for reasons other than their own arousal and orgasm. Men often feel exploited by this and other women are feel threatened (it’s easy when you’re young but once a woman has children she hopes to keep a man to help support a family).

Women are not as repressed as is often inferred. We follow our instincts just as men do. Experience shows us that sex with just any man is unlikely to be rewarding in the longer term.

Most women prefer to only offer sex to a man they would consider as a long-term mate. This is Nature’s way of ensuring that we form long-term relationships that can support family life.

By: mona37

mona37 — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 14:12:29 +0000

if a woman would accept things like that — that would just label her as a slut and make her something trashy whereas for a man, there is no such word as a man slut yet, so yeah i guess this show is run by men, not like we could carry the same approach.

By: RaulDeSouza

RaulDeSouza — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 12:22:12 +0000

really interesting story thanks for sharing

By: Nathaniel Hines

Nathaniel Hines — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 10:49:54 +0000

Every point you make is well within the realm of my experience. I especially like the comparison made about hotel staff. While men wouldn’t be offended by the suggestion, most women would be put off. Thanks for the story.

By: David Spector

David Spector — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 09:34:32 +0000

Unfortunately, some (or most) men are only as faithful as their options. The headline pretty much says it all…

By: bongtamonte

bongtamonte — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 08:08:17 +0000

I agree, men would readily think of casual sex …