Comments on: Sexual arousal from romantic emotions http://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/sexual-arousal-from-romantic-emotions/ The female sexuality forum dedicated to discussing women's orgasm techniques Fri, 03 Feb 2012 09:03:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Janehttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/sexual-arousal-from-romantic-emotions/#comment-344 Jane Fri, 30 Dec 2011 20:53:07 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/?p=8411#comment-344 My definition of orgasm comes from masturbation. Many women do not masturbate and so, given they are not necessarily even hoping for orgasm, they are more accepting of the emotional rewards of a sexual relationship. If women are hoping for orgasm, as they experience it during masturbation, then they will need to generate their own mental arousal before genital stimulation by anyone (themselves or a partner) can be effective. Women use sexual fantasy for arousal during masturbation but they are likely to find it much more difficult to use the same techniques with a partner because of the mental focus required. My definition of orgasm comes from masturbation. Many women do not masturbate and so, given they are not necessarily even hoping for orgasm, they are more accepting of the emotional rewards of a sexual relationship.

If women are hoping for orgasm, as they experience it during masturbation, then they will need to generate their own mental arousal before genital stimulation by anyone (themselves or a partner) can be effective.

Women use sexual fantasy for arousal during masturbation but they are likely to find it much more difficult to use the same techniques with a partner because of the mental focus required.

]]> By: Changezhttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/sexual-arousal-from-romantic-emotions/#comment-343 Changez Fri, 30 Dec 2011 18:52:44 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/?p=8411#comment-343 Well I would just contend that perhaps your view of what orgasm involves is narrow. I would think that most women know instinctively that the key to their sexual arousal is genital stimulation and they cater to it as best they can while with a partner. At that point it is for the partner to know genital stimulation techniques. Even women who do appreciate eroticism and masturbate may no be able to achieve orgasm with a partner they have no emotional and mental affinity with. Though I'm sure it would help. Well I would just contend that perhaps your view of what orgasm involves is narrow. I would think that most women know instinctively that the key to their sexual arousal is genital stimulation and they cater to it as best they can while with a partner. At that point it is for the partner to know genital stimulation techniques. Even women who do appreciate eroticism and masturbate may no be able to achieve orgasm with a partner they have no emotional and mental affinity with. Though I’m sure it would help.

]]> By: Janehttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/sexual-arousal-from-romantic-emotions/#comment-342 Jane Fri, 30 Dec 2011 14:52:29 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/?p=8411#comment-342 Thanks, Changez, for commenting. My point is that: Orgasm involves (1) achieving sexual arousal through an appreciation of eroticism and (2) using (genital) clitoral stimulation to orgasm. The relatively few women who masturbate know this but it is often implied that a woman’s sexual arousal with a partner depends more on her emotions and her relationship rather than on anything as sexually explicit as eroticism. Most women dislike the eroticism that is key to achieving sexual arousal and so they do not understand why anyone would want to stimulate their genitals. Thanks, Changez, for commenting. My point is that:

Orgasm involves (1) achieving sexual arousal through an appreciation of eroticism and (2) using (genital) clitoral stimulation to orgasm.

The relatively few women who masturbate know this but it is often implied that a woman’s sexual arousal with a partner depends more on her emotions and her relationship rather than on anything as sexually explicit as eroticism.

Most women dislike the eroticism that is key to achieving sexual arousal and so they do not understand why anyone would want to stimulate their genitals.

]]> By: Changezhttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/sexual-arousal-from-romantic-emotions/#comment-341 Changez Fri, 30 Dec 2011 11:51:17 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/?p=8411#comment-341 Well you said it yourself. For many women thinking of themselves as desirable, in our stereotyped world, is often difficult. The feeling of being desirable or feeling desired is perhaps a function or a relation of having a romantic and intimate relationship with someone, perhaps the fulfillment of a fantasy. In those situations, a woman achieving orgasm is perhaps as likely as through fantasies describing her ideal sexual experience, allowing her to escape the narrow confines of a make-believe reality that she needs to orgasm and experience it in a new way every time. Well you said it yourself. For many women thinking of themselves as desirable, in our stereotyped world, is often difficult. The feeling of being desirable or feeling desired is perhaps a function or a relation of having a romantic and intimate relationship with someone, perhaps the fulfillment of a fantasy. In those situations, a woman achieving orgasm is perhaps as likely as through fantasies describing her ideal sexual experience, allowing her to escape the narrow confines of a make-believe reality that she needs to orgasm and experience it in a new way every time.

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