The European countries where I have lived and traveled have a more natural approach in this arena; men and women enjoying their differences, and appreciating the value of eroticism — respectfully.

I suspect that “Angela,” as she matures and experiences more, may find that fantasy is as natural (and pleasurable) as looking at “porn” is for her boyfriend.

A comment: Eroticism does not = porn, and even those definitions are subjective.

One last note: Since we don’t know the exact nature of the remarks made by father, brother and friends during Angela’s adolescence, we can’t know with certainty that they weren’t hurtful and inappropriate. As parents, we need to teach our sons (and if necessary, our husbands) to be aware of how sensitive the young “self” can be, and to comment with care and respect.