Category Archives: Clitoral stimulation

The facts of female sexuality

Shere Hite pointed out in 1976 that inter­course does not provide the specific clit­oral stim­u­la­tion that women need to orgasm. So, it is very likely that any woman who claims easy orgasm during inter­course is mistaken.

Espe­cially given so few women masturbate and so most do not know what orgasm is. Women’s talk of the rela­tion­ship and loving emotions also indic­ates a misun­der­standing about the nature of Continue reading

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How to orgasm

Shere Hite explained how women apply orgasm tech­niques in order to orgasm during inter­course. Women’s sexual arousal and orgasm are not auto­matic and so women have to learn how to orgasm. Inev­it­ably, such tech­niques take time to develop.

“… the two reasons women don’t orgasm during inter­course are:

(1) they are given false inform­a­tion, specific­ally they are told that the penis thrusting in the Continue reading

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Women’s sexual dysfunction

Although many sources refer to women’s ‘sexual dysfunc­tion’, it is rare to find a defin­i­tion of what is supposed to be sexu­ally ‘normal’ for women in the first place.

Sex involves both repro­duc­tion and sexual pleasure. So in repro­ductive terms, a man could be described as sexu­ally dysfunc­tional if he cannot impreg­nate a female (male orgasm required) and a woman if she cannot conceive (female orgasm not required) Continue reading

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Lack of arousal during sex

Intimacy with a lover causes me to feel affec­tionate but I am rarely conscious of any sexual arousal. Whether it’s sex with a partner, or masturb­a­tion for that matter, I am usually pretty much stone cold in arousal terms at the start.

I might conclude that I am frigid if it were not for the fact that I cannot visu­alise other women I meet approaching sex just Continue reading

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What if female sexuality truly equalled male sexuality?

Imagine the scen­ario: a man and a woman facing each other, naked, in a world where men and women have an identical sex drive.

So, of course, they are both standing there with an erec­tion. Just to be clear: the man has an erect penis and the woman has an erect clitoris.

Would they mutu­ally choose to engage in vaginal inter­course? No because inter­course does not stim­u­late Continue reading

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Enjoying sexual pleasure

When it was suggested recently that UK schools should explain the role of the clit­oris, mothers were up in arms. They objected to their daugh­ters knowing that a girl might find it pleas­ur­able later in her life to touch her clitoris.

There was no uproar over boys’ genitals. Were the boys also told that their willies might give them pleasure later on? Boys discover their sexu­ality ‘natur­ally’ and Continue reading

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The ‘non-genital’ female orgasm

In response to my sugges­tion that it was ridicu­lous to suggest that a man can give a woman an orgasm, a man wrote:

My wife is consist­ently orgasmic. They are obvi­ously not faked. She can’t fake the cries, the invol­un­tary move­ments, the demands for more stim­u­la­tion, and everything else that goes with orgasm.

I’ve offered oral and manual stim­u­la­tion. She rejects oral because she considers it unhygienic Continue reading

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Real female orgasms

In the film ‘Private Benjamin’, a group of female army recruits sits around a camp­fire during an overnight exercise.

One of the women says: “I had an orgasm once…” and the others giggle. She goes on to say in a disap­pointed tone “…but I was alone!” Her girl­friends laugh sympathetically.

In the film, Goldie Hawn plays a spoilt young woman approaching thirty who has been married twice Continue reading

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Understanding the G-spot

The Gräfen­berg Spot, or G-Spot, has been surrounded by contro­versy ever since its ‘discovery’ only decades ago. Some women may have one about an inch or so (2-5cm) up in the front wall of the vagina.

The G-spot is believed to be an erogenous zone which when stim­u­lated can lead to high levels of sexual arousal and powerful orgasms. Despite all the hype many couples struggle to Continue reading

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