Women’s orgasm techniques leant from masturbation (including both clitoral stimulation and use of sexual fantasies) are not always easy as experts imply to transfer to sex with a partner.

My experience

Judy married in the late 1950’s; well before the average woman was informed about what a sexual relationship might involve. Judy’s aspirations were to provide a comfortable home for her family and to enjoy being

Women use clitoral stimulation during female masturbation but that’s just dessert. Main course is achieving sexual arousal though sexual fantasies. Many women never learn how to enjoy these.

The first step in

Men’s sexual arousal is usually easy whereas women’s sexual arousal and orgasm is not automatic so unsurprisingly we all tend to find it easier to focus on male sexual arousal during

Pam, an attractive woman in her late forties, told me that she had never had a problem with sexual arousal and orgasm. She started masturbating at the age of eight and after thirty

If a woman is open-minded to the idea of exploring eroticism, she should start by reading some erotic literature. If she has liberated friends it may be worth getting some recommendations. I suggest:

• ‘Emmanuelle’

Carolyn, a relationship counsellor in her fifties, told me she thought it unwise to positively encourage female masturbation. She did not give her reasons.

“Many women think of masturbation as unnatural and disgusting and

In the film ‘Shirley Valentine’, Pauline Collins plays Shirley, a middle-aged housewife. Shirley comments: “I’m not particularly fond of it – sex.

I think sex is like supermarkets, you know, overrated. Just a lot

All too often women’s sexual arousal is shrouded in mystery. Even today it is popularly suggested that female orgasm just happens ‘naturally’ or with the assistance of a loving partner.

Men’s easy arousal leads