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Category Archives: Misconceptions
Why do so few women comment on sexual pleasure?
I am not so crazy as to approach just any random woman on the subject of sex. I know that most women will be irreversibly offended even at the mention of sex. So I choose women who appear to be fairly liberated and then I approach the subject tangentially.
Of the women I have been brave enough to approach, the vast majority have shunned me. It is this Continue reading
Posted in Misconceptions Tagged eroticism, female sexuality forum, Sexual arousal, sexual pleasure, ways women orgasm 2 Comments
Taking the ego out of sex advice
Why do adults so often assume that they know everything about sex when most people have never even read a sex manual?
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but why do they have to flaunt their own sexual ego? Whatever our own personal views there is absolutely no need to express them in a way that belittles other people.
Despite their inexperience, women can be supremely Continue reading
Posted in Misconceptions Tagged female sexuality forum, orgasm during sex, sex advice, Sexual arousal, ways women orgasm 2 Comments
The sexual revolution set false hopes for female sexuality
Up until the 1950s society believed that women only had sex either for the purposes of procreation or to satisfy their partner. Alfred Kinsey’s revelation in 1953 that women also experience orgasm caused a sensation.
His report was attacked for being ‘anti-family’ in finding high incidences of male infidelity (40%) and homosexuality (37%) as well as female masturbation (62%), which others thought to be unrepresentative. Nevertheless the media Continue reading
Posted in Misconceptions Tagged female sexuality forum, orgasm during sex, Sexual arousal, Sexual desire, ways women orgasm 1 Comment
Interpreting experiences of female orgasm
When a man is stimulated sexually by a partner he finds it difficult to avoid becoming aroused. Similarly, if a woman’s response to penile thrusting (or any other physical stimulation technique) was automatic then women would presumably be unable to avoid becoming aroused whatever their conscious desires.
So in the movie ‘Swordfish’ (2001) Hugh Jackman hacks into the US Department of Defence, while threatened at gun point and Continue reading
Posted in Misconceptions Tagged female orgasm, female sexuality forum, Sexual arousal, Sexual fantasies, ways women orgasm 2 Comments
Talking to women about female orgasm
Since the experts I talked to had no rational explanations, I decided to do my own research by talking to women I met in everyday life.
I quickly learned just how highly embarrassing it is to approach women on such an intimate topic. Very few women are willing to talk about sex at all and even fewer have anything to say about female orgasm.
The vast majority Continue reading
Posted in Misconceptions Tagged female orgasm, female sexuality forum, orgasm during sex, ways women orgasm 5 Comments
Women who appear to want sexual pleasure
When I was 21, I met an Italian boy of the same age during a stay in Rome. Alfredo cared about how he dressed and would often check his appearance in the mirror.
I teased him because I had always been taught that personal vanity was undesirable. Alfredo wore designer sunglasses in the day but one evening as we were going out, I saw that he was wearing Continue reading
Posted in Misconceptions Tagged female sexuality forum, male sexuality, Sexual arousal, sexual pleasure, ways women orgasm 4 Comments
Bluffers, fakers and sex surveys
Pam, an attractive woman in her late forties, told me that she had never had a problem with sexual arousal and orgasm. She started masturbating at the age of eight and after thirty years with the same man, she was still enjoying orgasmic sex as she had done from day one.
Women’s sexual arousal and orgasm are not automatic for reasons of anatomy if nothing else Continue reading
Posted in Misconceptions Tagged fantasy sex, female sexuality forum, sex surveys, Sexual arousal, ways women orgasm 3 Comments
Is sexual arousal with a partner really so easy?
I approached my adult life in anticipation of a mutually enjoyable sex life. This optimism was fuelled by my love of erotic literature, which I read avidly as a teenager. I enjoyed exploring my sexual fantasies and by the age of seventeen I discovered orgasm through female masturbation.
When I had sex for the first time at the age of eighteen with a man I found attractive Continue reading
Sexual fact versus sexual fantasy
Imagine the scenario: a woman, wearing a skirt and no panties, climbs a ladder. A man below enjoys a clear view of her genitals. Imagine now that the genders are reversed: my point is that a woman is unlikely to appreciate the view in the same way that a man does.
Of course, someone will always disagree. A man said: “It depends from woman to woman, because if they Continue reading
Posted in Misconceptions Tagged female sexuality forum, Sexual arousal, sexual fantasy, ways women orgasm 5 Comments
Why it can be difficult to discuss our sexual relationships
One of the reasons that adults find it difficult to discuss sex openly is because of the personal nature of sex. It’s important to consider how other people might feel as a result of what we say.
So men can be offended if it is implied that because they are enthusiastic about sex this necessarily means that they are less discriminating. Not every man has been with a prostitute Continue reading