Slowly attitudes to sexual pleasure are changing and more couples are approaching their sex life with a willingness to try activities other than vaginal intercourse.

This brings welcome variety for men as well as

Overall my partner and I have been lucky to have enjoyed exploring eroticism and sex play together. Sure we have had our ups and downs like anyone else.

There have also been many

I have questioned my sexual experiences since the very first time I had sex at the age of eighteen. It has amazed me that more women don’t question.

We have known since the 1970’s

It takes time but it helps to understand something of each other’s sexual fantasies, what turns them on and what they enjoy about sex. As with all human communication, it is worth

An erection might feel good but it is likely to be a disadvantage if a man wants to devote time to pleasuring a woman. After all, two minutes is a typical time given

If the male sex drive only involved a desire for orgasm, then men would be happy settling for masturbation instead of sex. No doubt a great deal of time and money would be

Tracy Cox (author of ‘Hot Sex’) tells a story of a woman who welcomes her partner home from work wearing a sexy nightdress, with champagne by the bed and a pornographic movie ready in

Prostitution is at the core of the contradiction and embarrassment that lies at the centre of sex. After all, if sex is so equally pleasurable then why would anyone need to pay for sex?

From the very early days, I appreciated the sensual aspects of sex with a partner:

• Marvelling at the responsiveness of his penis and hardness of his erection;
• Enjoying the different feel of hairy skin;
• The intimacy of