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What sex experts have told me

admin — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 23:01:12 +0000

When my partner and I decided to get married, his work-mates took him out for a beer to convince him that marriage would mean the end of his sex life.

Naturally no woman ever gave me similar advice. I accepted early on that a woman needs to invest in sex for her man's sake. Even so, I was prepared to believe that there was something wrong with me Continue reading →

Advice on female orgasm

admin — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 23:01:30 +0000

Given the practical nature of sex (book-learning only gets you so far!) we tend to assume that sex experts have personal experience to support their 'expertise'.

Such is our embarrassment over sex that even when a person is advising others about sex we think it improper to ask them to account for their sexual experiences. Yet these experiences contribute towards their authority and support their qualifications. Most Continue reading →

Bringing more realism to sex advice

admin — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 23:01:59 +0000

It is natural that female sexuality is misrepresented by the media. We all watch films and read books in part to be entertained. We don't necessarily want to see real life because we know what that's like. We want to be uplifted by a fantasy view of the world.

Unfortunately this huge gap between sexual fantasy and reality means that men and women today are often Continue reading →

Sex advice for women is often misleading

admin — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 23:01:19 +0000

Natalie, a woman in her late twenties, had a close relationship with her mother who was a doctor. I approached Natalie hoping that a mother with a medical background might be more likely than others to have discussed her sexual experiences with a daughter.

When young women have difficulty reaching orgasm during sex, it can be difficult for them to find answers. Natalie was relieved and grateful Continue reading →

Explanations for women’s sexual arousal

admin — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 23:01:05 +0000

Some people assert confidently that women orgasm easily during sex. Yet, when I ask for details, the responses are frustratingly vague and defensive.

Many people assume that all women ‘naturally’ orgasm during sex. I have been advised to read a sex manual as if only extreme ignorance can explain a lack of orgasm. Alternatively, with a sympathetic expression I am asked about my feelings for my partner Continue reading →

The truth about female sexuality

admin — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 23:01:08 +0000

Sex is a difficult subject to analyse because it relies on our emotions rather than our powers of logical reasoning. How many women have been as interested in sex as I have been?

Having masturbated since the age of seventeen, I knew that orgasm was missing from sex. I consulted sex experts and had it confirmed that my partner and I are completely normal. I have read extensively Continue reading →

Sex experts deal with sexual dysfunction

admin — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 23:01:19 +0000

In the film ‘Doc Hollywood’ (1991) Bridget Fonda asks Michael J Fox whether doctors know more about sex than normal people.

This is a natural mistake to make because of the misconception that sex is a mechanical or biological aspect of our bodies. In fact, doctors are unlikely to know any more about sex than the rest of us. Sex is primarily about our psychology and Continue reading →

How do women reach orgasm with a partner?

admin — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 23:01:05 +0000

Everyone says "but it all works fine for other women". My question is "How?"

Men have more testosterone. Men get turned on by anything that moves in a skirt with legs. All men naturally masturbate throughout their sexually active lives. They heckle, they ask women to dance, they proposition, etc. etc. And women? They wait to be asked. Is this a sign of sex drive or Continue reading →

Defending the modern image of female sexuality

admin — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 23:01:15 +0000

As a young woman I never understood why I did not experience sexual arousal as a natural part of my sexual relationship. Much later I decided to talk to experts, assuming that they would have some answers, but I was met only with evasion and silence.

The issue of women's sexual arousal and orgasm with a partner is surrounded by mis-information, contrary opinions and, above all, defensiveness Continue reading →

The problem with sex advice today

admin — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 23:01:27 +0000

The suggestion is that female sexuality is identical to male sexuality. Yet women don't approach sex with the same genital erection (of the clitoris) that men tend to have so how can women hope to orgasm during sex as easily as men do?

Many women have difficulty with orgasm during sex but this is rarely acknowledged by anyone, least of all the feminists, who are blinded Continue reading →