Category Archives: Sexual arousal

Women often assume sexual arousal during sex

Unless they masturbate, most women are unaware that clit­oral stim­u­la­tion is needed for female orgasm. Equally, they are unaware that before genital stim­u­la­tion can be effective, a person needs to know how to achieve true sexual arousal, which depends on an appre­ci­ation of erot­i­cism (images for men; scen­arios for women).

From puberty onwards men’s sexual arousal (as evid­enced by an erec­tion) makes regular masturb­a­tion inev­it­able. Since Continue reading

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Sexual arousal from romantic emotions

Many women talk about sexual arousal and orgasm in terms of their rela­tion­ship. They describe their loving feel­ings for their partner and explain their sexual arousal in terms of the idea that their partner finds them attractive.

Masturb­a­tion has no meaning for them because, for such women, sex focuses on the emotional bene­fits of sharing phys­ical intimacy with their man. It’s important not to judge other people’s exper­i­ences Continue reading

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Male nudity does not cause female sexual arousal

The naked male body can be a beau­tiful sight and yet our hetero­sexual society is domin­ated by images of women’s bodies. The ancient Greeks were more relaxed about homo­sexu­ality and statues indicate their appre­ci­ation of the sensual male nude.

Gay men certainly appre­ciate the naked male, including male genitals but women are often offended by nudity, espe­cially genitals, and so nudity is censored in our society.

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Why sexual arousal is more elusive for women

Sexual desire is asso­ci­ated with ‘sex drive’. The male sex drive is a man’s biolo­gical drive to procreate by thrusting into a woman’s vagina until ejac­u­la­tion (usually co-incident with male orgasm).

Before the sexual revolu­tion a woman was seen to have a comple­mentary (not identical) sexual role to men in terms of accepting a man’s sexual advances. So a woman could be the object of a man’s sexual Continue reading

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Understanding women’s sexual arousal

Sex is asso­ci­ated with repro­duc­tion and with pleasure. Male orgasm is usually co-incident with ejac­u­la­tion which leads to repro­duc­tion but female orgasm is not required for a woman to become pregnant.

So it’s at least possible that women may exper­i­ence sexual pleasure (including sexual desire, sexual arousal and orgasm) differ­ently to men.

Men discover orgasm at a young age but women have no way of knowing what Continue reading

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Women’s sexual arousal

Published in 1972, ‘Joy of Sex’ by Alex Comfort MD was revolu­tionary at the time because it suggested a new open­ness and a sense of fun in modern sexual rela­tion­ships. Liberal-minded couples welcomed the idea that it could now be considered normal and ‘unin­hib­ited’ to enjoy sex as a natural part of an adult relationship.

Draw­ings, as opposed to photo­graphs, portrayed the phys­ical intimacy between two lovers sens­it­ively Continue reading

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Sexual arousal during intercourse

When I had sex for the first time, I was disap­pointed because I had hoped that sex would be spon­tan­eously arousing enough for me to orgasm. I didn’t have any clear idea about what I would do during sex except perhaps to respond affec­tion­ately to my lover’s love-making.

It’s amazing when you think of it. I was eighteen years old and a virgin so my vagina was as Continue reading

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The mystery of female sexual arousal

In the film ‘True Lies’ (1994) Jamie Lee Curtis, as the dowdy house­wife turned spy in the role of a pros­ti­tute, performs a sexy pole dance for her screen husband Arnold Schwarzenegger.

It seems so natural that a man’s arousal comes from admiring a woman’s body. Yet we never ques­tion why a man’s fore­play tech­niques do not include him using his body to provide a woman’s arousal Continue reading

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Confusion over female orgasm

When they talk about their sexual rela­tion­ships with men, women will often refer to love, trust and commitment.

These factors are obvi­ously important for the stability of long-term rela­tion­ships that family life Continue reading

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