Since the experts I talked to had no rational explanations, I decided to do my own research by talking to women I met in everyday life.
I quickly learned just how highly embarrassing it is to approach women on such an intimate topic.
Up until the 1950s society believed that women only had sex either for the purposes of procreation or to satisfy their partner. Alfred Kinsey’s revelation in 1953 that women also experience orgasm caused a sensation.
His report was attacked for being ‘anti-family’ in finding high incidences of male infidelity (40%) and homosexuality (37%) as well as female masturbation (62%), which others thought to be unrepresentative.
I am not so crazy as to approach just any random woman on the subject of sex. I know that most women will be irreversibly offended even at the mention of sex. So I choose women who appear to be fairly liberated and then I approach the subject tangentially.
Of the women I have been brave enough to approach, the vast majority have shunned me.
One of the reasons that adults find it difficult to discuss sex openly is because of the personal nature of sex. It’s important to consider how other people might feel as a result of what we say.
So men can be offended if it is implied that because they are enthusiastic about sex this necessarily means that they are less discriminating.
Imagine the scenario: a woman, wearing a skirt and no panties, climbs a ladder. A man below enjoys a clear view of her genitals. Imagine now that the genders are reversed: my point is that a woman is unlikely to appreciate the view in the same way that a man does.
Of course, someone will always disagree.