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What real women say

Reality versus fiction. What real women say about sex and orgasm is very different to how women’s responsiveness is portrayed in pornography and other erotic fiction.

In the film 'True Lies' (1994) Jamie Lee Curtis, as the dowdy housewife turned spy in the role of a prostitute, performs a sexy pole dance for her screen husband Arnold Schwarzenegger. It seems so natural that a man's arousal comes from admiring a woman's body. Yet we never question why a man's foreplay techniques do not include him using...
Almost complete mystery surrounds women’s sexual arousal. Women’s PHYSICAL arousal is rarely acknowledged and our understanding of women’s PSYCHOLOGICAL arousal is very vague. No wonder many of us gain the impression that female orgasms simply mushroom up out of nowhere. Explanations for women's sexual arousal often defy belief. It is suggested that women, unlike men, can reach orgasm in response...
A BBC documentary ‘The Human Body’ presented by Dr Robert Winston films a sex education class. First the teacher writes the word ‘SEX’ in large letters on the blackboard and then asks the teenagers to suggest other words associated with sex. After the standard contributions the teacher adds the word missing from the list: ‘LOVE’. Despite contraception, sex still involves a...
When I had sex for the first time, I was disappointed because I had hoped that sex would be spontaneously arousing enough for me to orgasm. I didn’t have any clear idea about what I would do during sex except perhaps to respond affectionately to my lover’s love-making. It’s amazing when you think of it. I was eighteen years old...
Becky explained via e-mail: “I had my first orgasm at 26 during masturbation - pretty late I know & since then no stopping me with the sex toys : ) . Plenty of my girlfriends have not though - and like you say, don't seem too bothered about it which I can't understand.” Despite this evidence Becky was convinced that...
Humans are one of the few mammals known to have intercourse even when the female is not in estrus (the fertile period in the female’s reproductive cycle). Intelligent social animals learn that cooperative behaviour can be far more successful than that of any individual alone. Thus human sexuality has evolved beyond the immediate needs of reproduction to allow for the...
Published in 1972, ‘Joy of Sex’ by Alex Comfort MD was revolutionary at the time because it suggested a new openness and a sense of fun in modern sexual relationships. Liberal-minded couples welcomed the idea that it could now be considered normal and ‘uninhibited’ to enjoy sex as a natural part of an adult relationship. Drawings, as opposed to photographs,...