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Advice on female orgasm

Given the prac­tical nature of sex (book-learning only gets you so far!) we tend to assume that sex experts have personal exper­i­ence to support their ‘expertise’.

Such is our embar­rass­ment over sex that even when a person is advising others about sex we think it improper to ask them to account for their sexual exper­i­ences. Yet these exper­i­ences contribute towards their authority and support their qualifications.

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Intercourse does not facilitate female orgasm

Men’s sexual arousal is usually easy, which gives them a natural advantage. As a consequence, while men can usually hope for orgasm from their sexual encoun­ters, most women have to settle for the more diffused sensa­tions of sexual arousal.

“Sex is a very different exper­i­ence for women and men. A man exper­i­ences pleasure primarily as a release of sexual tension. A woman exper­i­ences sex in an opposite way Continue reading

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Female orgasm is not required for reproduction

We have known for decades that inter­course doesn’t provide suffi­cient PHYSICAL stim­u­la­tion (of the clit­oris) for orgasm. But even more funda­ment­ally, how do women achieve the PSYCHOLOGICAL arousal needed to orgasm during sex?

Over the years, I have found very few women who seem bothered that sex is unlikely to provide female orgasm. I under­stand that women who never masturbate are not motiv­ated by orgasm. I am targeting Continue reading

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The 10 facts of female sexuality

Beliefs about female sexu­ality are more often based on fantasy than facts. These are the 10 essen­tial facts that every sexual woman should know:

(1) Enjoying orgasm through genital stimulation

Anyone, male or female, alone or with a partner, uses genital stim­u­la­tion to take a mental state of sexual arousal (achieved by appre­ci­ating erot­i­cism) to orgasm.

(2) The role of psycho­lo­gical sexual arousal

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Interpreting experiences of female orgasm

When a man is stim­u­lated sexu­ally by a partner he finds it diffi­cult to avoid becoming aroused. Simil­arly, if a woman’s response to penile thrusting (or any other phys­ical stim­u­la­tion tech­nique) was auto­matic then women would presum­ably be unable to avoid becoming aroused whatever their conscious desires.

So in the movie ‘Sword­fish’ (2001) Hugh Jackman hacks into the US Depart­ment of Defence, while threatened at gun point and Continue reading

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Talking to women about female orgasm

Since the experts I talked to had no rational explan­a­tions, I decided to do my own research by talking to women I met in everyday life.

I quickly learned just how highly embar­rassing it is to approach women on such an intimate topic. Very few women are willing to talk about sex at all and even fewer have anything to say about female orgasm.

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How to give a woman an orgasm during sex

The sugges­tion is that for the perfect sex life a woman just needs to find the right man: usually a loving and consid­erate partner, who will, of course, know how to give her an orgasm.

Self-evidently a woman needs a consid­erate lover if inter­course is to be a love-making act other­wise it is simply rape. A loving partner may cause a woman to be AMENABLE to inter­course but Continue reading

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The ‘non-genital’ female orgasm

In response to my sugges­tion that it was ridicu­lous to suggest that a man can give a woman an orgasm, a man wrote:

My wife is consist­ently orgasmic. They are obvi­ously not faked. She can’t fake the cries, the invol­un­tary move­ments, the demands for more stim­u­la­tion, and everything else that goes with orgasm.

I’ve offered oral and manual stim­u­la­tion. She rejects oral because she considers it unhygienic Continue reading

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Confusion over female orgasm

When they talk about their sexual rela­tion­ships with men, women will often refer to love, trust and commitment.

These factors are obvi­ously important for the stability of long-term rela­tion­ships that family life Continue reading

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Difficulty reaching orgasm during sex

The website ‘Go Ask Alice!’ confirms that it is likely to be diffi­cult for a woman to reach orgasm through inter­course since the clit­oris is not located inside a woman’s vagina. They suggest that women should aim to have their orgasm during other sexual activity either before or after intercourse.

Any woman who can climax with a partner either by using orgasm tech­niques from masturb­a­tion or through oral Continue reading

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