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Women have to learn how to orgasm

In the film ‘Shirley Valentine’ (1989), Pauline Collins plays Shirley, a middle-aged house­wife. Shirley comments: “I’m not partic­u­larly fond of it – sex.

I think sex is like super­mar­kets, you know, over­rated. Just a lot of pushing and shoving and you still come out with very little in the end.” (Note: this film was set in the days before super­mar­kets sold everything from clothes to microwaves!)

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Defending the modern image of female sexuality

As a young woman I never under­stood why I did not exper­i­ence sexual arousal as a natural part of my sexual rela­tion­ship. Much later I decided to talk to experts, assuming that they would have some answers, but I was met only with evasion and silence.

The issue of women’s sexual arousal and orgasm with a partner is surrounded by mis-information, contrary opin­ions and, above all, defens­ive­ness Continue reading

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Sexual promiscuity

Renate, a student of twenty-six, liked to be affec­tionate with her male friends but then was bewildered when they inter­preted her hugs as a sexual advance.

A man tends to assume that phys­ical intimacy is a given as soon as a woman shows him any affec­tion. A woman needs time to build the emotional intimacy that causes her to be amen­able to sex.

“Women asso­ciate affec­tion Continue reading

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How to orgasm

Shere Hite explained how women apply orgasm tech­niques in order to orgasm during inter­course. Women’s sexual arousal and orgasm are not auto­matic and so women have to learn how to orgasm. Inev­it­ably, such tech­niques take time to develop.

“… the two reasons women don’t orgasm during inter­course are:

(1) they are given false inform­a­tion, specific­ally they are told that the penis thrusting in the Continue reading

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Women settle for emotional intimacy over sexual arousal

On relating our exper­i­ence to others, we all tend to gloss over details or not own up to diffi­culties that were perhaps transient.

I told Linda, a mother of three in her late forties, that I had never had an orgasm during inter­course. Linda looked at me incred­u­lously and laughed as if I must be ignorant of the most basic sexual facts. Natur­ally, I died with morti­fic­a­tion at the Continue reading

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Male sexuality involves a high sex drive

Faking illus­trates how women are more concerned about keeping their part­ners happy or not appearing inad­equate than they are about reaching orgasm. Other­wise, they would admit their problem and try to find a solution.

Like­wise, the debate over which body part needs to be stim­u­lated for female orgasm arises because many women don’t know how to orgasm.

It is unthink­able that a man would not Continue reading

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