Ways Women Orgasm

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Why sex is called ‘making love’

making love

The hetero­sexual act of vaginal inter­course is designed fore­most as an expres­sion of love between a man and a woman.

After all, if sex was purely about two people reaching orgasm, then we would more natur­ally engage in activ­ities that involve more direct genital stim­u­la­tion. Inter­course is a natural progres­sion from kissing to a man capit­al­ising on his sexual arousal to ‘make love’ to a woman

Women have a lower sex drive

lower sex drive

Men’s sexual arousal is usually easy whereas women’s sexual arousal and orgasm are not auto­matic so unsur­pris­ingly sex tends to focus on male sexual arousal.

A man’s orgasm (since it is usually co-incident with ejac­u­la­tion) is crit­ical to repro­duc­tion and so it makes sense that men are motiv­ated by erot­i­cism and able to reach orgasm easily.

Female orgasm, on the other hand, is not required

Lust is good

lust is good

I suppose that I have been lucky. My sexual desire to enjoy my own sexual arousal and orgasm is evid­ently unusual for a woman.

I know that this is unusual because most women talk of love, trust and commit­ment. From time to time, I posit­ively enjoy jumping on my man.

But it doesn’t work like that, does it? Even if a woman climbs on top (done it

Women’s sexual arousal and orgasm are not automatic

automatic sexual arousal

Almost complete mystery surrounds women’s sexual arousal. Women’s PHYSICAL arousal is rarely acknow­ledged and our under­standing of women’s PSYCHOLOGICAL arousal is very vague. No wonder many of us gain the impres­sion that female orgasms simply mush­room up out of nowhere.

Explan­a­tions for women’s sexual arousal often defy belief. It is suggested that women, unlike men, can reach orgasm in response to many different sources of

How do women reach orgasm with a partner?

how reach orgasm

Everyone says “but it all works fine for other women”. My ques­tion is “How?”

Men have more testosterone. Men get turned on by anything that moves in a skirt with legs. All men natur­ally masturbate throughout their sexu­ally active lives. They heckle, they ask women to dance, they propos­i­tion, etc. etc.

And women? They wait to be asked. Is this a sign of sex drive or

Techniques women use to reach orgasm

orgasm techniques women use

I’m sure that men will under­stand the point. We express our sexu­ality through two basic phenomena:

  • Firstly, enjoying our own PSYCHOLOGICAL arousal by appre­ci­ating erot­i­cism; and
  • Secondly, bringing our sexual arousal to orgasm by PHYSICAL stim­u­la­tion of the genitals.

Yet many women are shocked by erot­i­cism (whether visual or verbal porno­graphy, erotica or the concept of sexual fantasy) and equally shocked by the

How to get laid

how to get laid

Men should take comfort from the facts of female sexu­ality. Most women are unlikely to orgasm from inter­course alone (which provides insuf­fi­cient clit­oral stim­u­la­tion for orgasm) and yet amaz­ingly few women ask about lack of orgasm.

In addi­tion to the obvious personal embar­rass­ment, likely explan­a­tions include:

  • Not every woman is inter­ested in orgasm, whether from masturb­a­tion or from sex.
  • Relat­ively few women masturbate and so

What sex experts have told me

sex experts have told me

When my partner and I decided to get married, his work-mates took him out for a beer to convince him that marriage would mean the end of his sex life.

Natur­ally no woman ever gave me similar advice. I accepted early on that a woman needs to invest in sex for her man’s sake. Even so, I was prepared to believe that there was some­thing wrong with me