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Women’s sexual desire

Women who live alone or do not have an active sex life with their partner some­times perceive them­selves to be sexu­ally needy because they start to doubt their ability to attract men.

Margaret (early fifties, chil­dren, rela­tion­ship 30 years) was confident that she was highly sexual and inter­ested in sex. However, her sexual rela­tion­ship with her partner had broken down and she admitted that she did not consider Continue reading

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Lack of arousal during sex

Intimacy with a lover causes me to feel affec­tionate but I am rarely conscious of any sexual arousal. Whether it’s sex with a partner, or masturb­a­tion for that matter, I am usually pretty much stone cold in arousal terms at the start.

I might conclude that I am frigid if it were not for the fact that I cannot visu­alise other women I meet approaching sex just Continue reading

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The sexual revolution set false hopes for female sexuality

Up until the 1950s society believed that women only had sex either for the purposes of procre­ation or to satisfy their partner. Alfred Kinsey’s revel­a­tion in 1953 that women also exper­i­ence orgasm caused a sensation.

His report was attacked for being ‘anti-family’ in finding high incid­ences of male infi­delity (40%) and homo­sexu­ality (37%) as well as female masturb­a­tion (62%), which others thought to be unrep­res­ent­ative. Never­the­less the media Continue reading

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Understanding female sexual desire

One of the miscon­cep­tions of the sexual revolu­tion was the proposal that, for men and women to be equal, they had to be the same. But testosterone is the sex hormone. Men’s bodies are full of it but women have much lower levels of testosterone.

Attrib­utes tradi­tion­ally considered feminine (e.g. being passive or accom­mod­ating) were thought to be signs of weak­ness or inferi­ority. Whereas tradi­tion­ally mascu­line attrib­utes (e.g Continue reading

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Lust is good

I suppose that I have been lucky. My sexual desire to enjoy my own sexual arousal and orgasm is evid­ently unusual for a woman.

I know that this is unusual because most women talk of love, trust and commit­ment. From time to time, I posit­ively enjoy jumping on my man.

But it doesn’t work like that, does it? Even if a woman climbs on top (done it Continue reading

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Young and sexy

A young and sexy woman complained about the male atten­tion she got every time she left the hostel on 42nd Street, Manhattan, dressed in her high heels and low cleavage. Yes, well… It is relat­ively easy for a woman to attract a man’s atten­tion by enhan­cing her looks.

It is more diffi­cult for her to cash in on the advantage by enjoying orgasm during sex. Women are Continue reading

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The sexual politics of female sexual desire

Although the modern day hype about female sexu­ality was in part sparked off by the work of Alfred Kinsey, the facts he reported have long since been lost in the rush to sensa­tion­alise female sexual desire.

Kinsey’s report clearly set out the much lower sexual response of the female (as meas­ured by the incid­ence of orgasm) and the incred­ible range in sexual respons­ive­ness reported by women Continue reading

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