Tag Archives: Sexual fantasies

Making the most of sex play

Overall my partner and I have been lucky to have enjoyed exploring erot­i­cism and sex play together. Sure we have had our ups and downs like anyone else.

There have also been many positive moments. When I am in a romantic mood, perhaps after a movie or after spending compan­ion­able time with my partner, it can be the most exhil­ar­ating exper­i­ence to enjoy passionate kissing while having sex Continue reading

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How women enjoy eroticism through sex stories

Most hetero­sexual women do not masturbate. They also do not find the concepts of erot­i­cism or fantasy that appealing. So who reads all the feminine erotica out there?

Presum­ably some lesbian women masturbate and read erotica. In fact, female masturb­a­tion and clit­oral stim­u­la­tion are often asso­ci­ated with lesbi­anism. Perhaps this is why so much female erotica focuses on women’s bodies and sex between women.

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Male nudity does not cause female sexual arousal

The naked male body can be a beau­tiful sight and yet our hetero­sexual society is domin­ated by images of women’s bodies. The ancient Greeks were more relaxed about homo­sexu­ality and statues indicate their appre­ci­ation of the sensual male nude.

Gay men certainly appre­ciate the naked male, including male genitals but women are often offended by nudity, espe­cially genitals, and so nudity is censored in our society.

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Men hope a lover will enhance their sexual arousal

The sex industry (pros­ti­tu­tion and porno­graphy) is a clear indic­a­tion that men’s desire to enjoy their own sexual arousal and orgasm cannot be satis­fied through their rela­tion­ships with women alone.

It’s easy for a woman to figure out that men want sex… but they also want to be loved and appre­ci­ated through their sexual relationship.

  • Men’s sexual arousal is usually easy and imme­diate. Despite the evidence

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How to pleasure a man

Tracy Cox (author of ‘Hot Sex’ 1998) tells the story of a woman who welcomes her partner home wearing a sexy night­dress, with cham­pagne by the bed and a porno­graphic movie ready to play. If she does this regu­larly over the longer term then I take my hat off to her!

Her partner is a very lucky man. More real­ist­ic­ally such pampering to a man’s sexual fantasies is Continue reading

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Pleasuring a woman

An erec­tion might feel good but it is likely to be a disad­vantage if a man wants to devote time to pleas­uring a woman. After all, two minutes is a typical time given for a man to reach orgasm!

A man can learn tech­niques for slowing his arousal and increasing the time he takes to orgasm by investing private time during masturbation.

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Lack of orgasm is not a sexual dysfunction

It is often suggested that a lack of female orgasm during sex is a sign of sexual dysfunc­tion but the truth is that this is simply the way things are for women who hope for orgasm from their sexual rela­tion­ships. A woman is lucky to orgasm by any means.

The belief that women orgasm ‘natur­ally’ during sex is based on fantasy (erotica and porno­graphy) and contra­dicts the conclu­sions Continue reading

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Reaching orgasm

Rose was a pretty woman even in her late forties. Despite being a mother and house­wife she always achieved a classy present­a­tion. Rose told me:

Although I masturb­ated as a young­ster (from 14) it was never to orgasm. My first orgasm was by acci­dent. It happened at 17 with a boyfriend — not during penet­rative sex but as a result of my body rubbing against his body. It Continue reading

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Lack of arousal during sex

Intimacy with a lover causes me to feel affec­tionate but I am rarely conscious of any sexual arousal. Whether it’s sex with a partner, or masturb­a­tion for that matter, I am usually pretty much stone cold in arousal terms at the start.

I might conclude that I am frigid if it were not for the fact that I cannot visu­alise other women I meet approaching sex just Continue reading

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Why sexual arousal is more elusive for women

Sexual desire is asso­ci­ated with ‘sex drive’. The male sex drive is a man’s biolo­gical drive to procreate by thrusting into a woman’s vagina until ejac­u­la­tion (usually co-incident with male orgasm).

Before the sexual revolu­tion a woman was seen to have a comple­mentary (not identical) sexual role to men in terms of accepting a man’s sexual advances. So a woman could be the object of a man’s sexual Continue reading

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