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Long-term sexual relationships

Why in our liber­ated times do women still accept ‘putting up with sex’ just to avoid being single? I am not judging anyone else’s exper­i­ences. If other women are content with sex as they find it – I’m very happy for them.

But are they really? Or are they simply more accepting?

A woman in her early thirties said that she didn’t see the point of sex Continue reading

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Why do so few women comment on sexual pleasure?

I am not so crazy as to approach just any random woman on the subject of sex. I know that most women will be irre­vers­ibly offended even at the mention of sex. So I choose women who appear to be fairly liber­ated and then I approach the subject tangentially.

Of the women I have been brave enough to approach, the vast majority have shunned me. It is this Continue reading

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Some women do explore sexual pleasure

Slowly atti­tudes to sexual pleasure are chan­ging and more couples are approaching their sex life with a will­ing­ness to try activ­ities other than vaginal intercourse.

Basic­ally, if you are strug­gling with lack of arousal during sex and genu­inely want to share your own arousal with a partner then you will need to be prepared to explore activ­ities other than intercourse.

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Women’s sexual desire

Women who live alone or do not have an active sex life with their partner some­times perceive them­selves to be sexu­ally needy because they start to doubt their ability to attract men.

Margaret (early fifties, chil­dren, rela­tion­ship 30 years) was confident that she was highly sexual and inter­ested in sex. However, her sexual rela­tion­ship with her partner had broken down and she admitted that she did not consider Continue reading

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Comparing orgasm from female masturbation and with a partner

Graphs are not very exciting concepts but never­the­less they can be useful. Imagine the male orgasm graph which looks a little like a vertical phallic symbol. Then imagine the female orgasm graph which looks like the outline of a woman’s vulva.

The male exper­i­ence is shorter but more intense. The female exper­i­ence is longer but lower overall. My exper­i­ence of female masturb­a­tion is that the initial phase Continue reading

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Sex for life

One great aspect of men growing older is that they become slightly less obsessed with their own sexual arousal and need for sexual release. Now that his own need for orgasm is less pressing, my partner is able to focus on my arousal and can bring me to orgasm through using a combin­a­tion of anal and clit­oral stimulation.

As a young woman I was never conscious of my Continue reading

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Spice up your sex life

A young woman, who had prom­ised her father that she would remain a virgin until a certain age, complied with his request by having anal sex with her part­ners (Note: STD protec­tion and contra­cept­ives still required).

Unsur­pris­ingly, she was very popular with men who tend not to be so hung-up about breaking sexual taboos. To be fair though — we expect more of women.

There is Continue reading

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What if female sexuality truly equalled male sexuality?

Imagine the scen­ario: a man and a woman facing each other, naked, in a world where men and women have an identical sex drive.

So, of course, they are both standing there with an erec­tion. Just to be clear: the man has an erect penis and the woman has an erect clitoris.

Would they mutu­ally choose to engage in vaginal inter­course? No because inter­course does not stim­u­late Continue reading

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Men are fascinated by sex

When I was seeing Bruce, a sexual psycho­lo­gist, Peter also went along for one session by himself. It was a rare oppor­tunity for two men to compare notes on tech­niques for female sexual arousal.

Peter told Bruce how he had masturb­ated a woman on a transat­lantic flight. He had told her about some sexual fantasy scen­arios while stim­u­lating her clit­oris. Appar­ently, Bruce was very impressed with Continue reading

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Female sexuality in perspective

Humans are one of the few mammals known to have inter­course even when the female is not in estrus (the fertile period in the female’s repro­ductive cycle).

Intel­li­gent social animals learn that cooper­ative beha­viour can be far more successful than that of any indi­vidual alone. Thus human sexu­ality has evolved beyond the imme­diate needs of repro­duc­tion to allow for the forging of emotional bonds between part­ners vital to Continue reading

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