Most people, including most men, eventually conclude that sex is a more rewarding experience when shared with someone they love or have feelings for.

However, some men especially younger men, are able to enjoy sex as a physical pleasure regardless of any emotional relationship. So for example, some men will happily contemplate sex with a stranger just for the sexual pleasure.

Of course, some women behave in a similar manner and I am certainly not disapproving of casual sex for anyone. A bit of lust and passion never did anyone any harm in my book (consenting adults naturally).

My point though is that men experience easy arousal and fairly spontaneous orgasm through sex. Women are likely to have much more difficulty enjoying sexual arousal and orgasm with a partner.

This is no one’s fault, either the woman’s or her lover’s. Sex is not designed to facilitate female orgasm since it is not required for reproduction. Women orgasm most easily through masturbation where they can provide their own clitoral stimulation and focus fully on sexual fantasy.

Sex with a lover can still be great fun: sensual, physical and intimate. The emotional aspects can be exhilarating for both sexes but unfortunately sex is unlikely to be orgasmic for a woman.

This has been the greatest disappointment of my life and yet this is being very spoilt. The fact is that many women never discover orgasm by any means either with a partner or alone. I have learned to make the best of the pleasures available. I enjoy orgasm alone and the joys of sensual intimacy with a lover.

Great story!

Before I started I would never have believed how difficult it has been to talk openly about a woman’s sexual experiences. The amount of negative comment is truly amazing and most of it comes from other women.

There is evidently a great deal of sexual ego to defend out there. It is very gratifying when other women do speak up and support my efforts to bring more honesty to the discussion. I am sure that men also appreciate more clarity than is generally available.

The truth will out, as they say, … well eventually!