Comments on: Why foreplay techniques don’t always work as we think they should

By: Jane

Jane — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 18:30:52 +0000

Liz, the issue is much more around WHEN and HOW a woman becomes aroused enough for orgasm. Both Kinsey and Hite found that women were much more likely to experience arousal and orgasm from masturbation alone than through sex with a partner.

Kinsey used female masturbation as the basis for observing women’s sexual responses since it was a much more reliable means of achieving female sexual arousal and orgasm.

Kinsey also noted that men become aroused in anticipation of a sexual relationship as well as in response to any discussion of sex. Women do not. This is key to understanding why women have problems with arousal during sex.

By: Liz Aldrich

Liz Aldrich — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 15:26:47 +0000

While it’s true that women aren’t having very noticeable, bulge-in-their-pants erections, clitoral, vaginal, and labial tissue becomes noticeably engorged, lubricated, and frequently darker in color during physical arousal, breasts swell,etc.

I wonder if the problem isn’t that women’s arousal is not obvious, but that we aren’t as often TAUGHT what female arousal looks like (the way we learn that erection=arousal in men). Once you know what the changes can be, arousal in women isn’t so enigmatic.

By: admin

admin — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 07:00:34 +0000

The website ‘GoAskAlice!’ is one of the few sources that acknowledges Shere Hite’s conclusion that women are likely to find orgasm difficult without clitoral stimulation. Read on: I'm a woman who cannot feel pleasurable sensations during intercourse