Comments on: Women’s sexual arousal and orgasm are not automatic http://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/women%e2%80%99s-sexual-arousal-and-orgasm-are-not-automatic/ The female sexuality forum dedicated to discussing women's orgasm techniques Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:45:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Patricia Whelehanhttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/women%e2%80%99s-sexual-arousal-and-orgasm-are-not-automatic/#comment-625 Patricia Whelehan Mon, 02 Jan 2012 20:50:06 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.com/?p=1651#comment-625 Jane, We agree on these points. Pat Jane,
We agree on these points.
Pat

]]> By: Janehttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/women%e2%80%99s-sexual-arousal-and-orgasm-are-not-automatic/#comment-624 Jane Mon, 02 Jan 2012 18:29:23 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.com/?p=1651#comment-624 What I mean is that a woman can conceive without ever experiencing orgasm. This explains why many women never experience orgasm throughout the whole of their lives by any means. It also explains why so few women are concerned about orgasm. Despite the knowledge that clitoral stimulation is required for orgasm, our heterosexual society still officially supports vaginal intercourse as the key 'love-making' act. Clearly female sexual arousal is not an issue for most couples. Vaginal intercourse provides men with the stimulation they need for orgasm. It also allows a woman to take a passive role in sex by facilitating male orgasm rather than aiming for her own. Oral sex and mutual masturbation require more effort and are more explicitly sexual. What I mean is that a woman can conceive without ever experiencing orgasm.

This explains why many women never experience orgasm throughout the whole of their lives by any means. It also explains why so few women are concerned about orgasm.

Despite the knowledge that clitoral stimulation is required for orgasm, our heterosexual society still officially supports vaginal intercourse as the key ‘love-making’ act. Clearly female sexual arousal is not an issue for most couples.

Vaginal intercourse provides men with the stimulation they need for orgasm. It also allows a woman to take a passive role in sex by facilitating male orgasm rather than aiming for her own. Oral sex and mutual masturbation require more effort and are more explicitly sexual.

]]> By: Patricia Whelehanhttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/women%e2%80%99s-sexual-arousal-and-orgasm-are-not-automatic/#comment-623 Patricia Whelehan Mon, 02 Jan 2012 17:47:18 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.com/?p=1651#comment-623 I agree with you except for your last point that "female orgasm has little to do with reproduction." That is a controversial topic and is debated within the evolution of sex within anthropology. I agree with you except for your last point that “female orgasm has little to do with reproduction.” That is a controversial topic and is debated within the evolution of sex within anthropology.

]]> By: Janehttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/women%e2%80%99s-sexual-arousal-and-orgasm-are-not-automatic/#comment-622 Jane Mon, 02 Jan 2012 14:46:18 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.com/?p=1651#comment-622 Thanks for your comment. I am aware that ejaculation and male orgasm are not always coincident. However, my understanding is that for the most part they are. I certainly think it unlikely that men are interested in all that porn and willing to pay for sex all over the world for the pleasure of ejaculating. I would assume their interest is in orgasm but luckily for the survival of the human race this interest often leads to reproduction especially when a man ejaculates inside a woman's vagina. This reproductive biology explains why our heterosexual society puts vaginal intercourse at the centre of sex. It does not however mean that vaginal intercourse is the most likely activity that leads to female orgasm because female orgasm has little to do with reproduction. This is my main point. Thanks for your comment. I am aware that ejaculation and male orgasm are not always coincident. However, my understanding is that for the most part they are.

I certainly think it unlikely that men are interested in all that porn and willing to pay for sex all over the world for the pleasure of ejaculating.

I would assume their interest is in orgasm but luckily for the survival of the human race this interest often leads to reproduction especially when a man ejaculates inside a woman’s vagina.

This reproductive biology explains why our heterosexual society puts vaginal intercourse at the centre of sex. It does not however mean that vaginal intercourse is the most likely activity that leads to female orgasm because female orgasm has little to do with reproduction.

This is my main point.

]]> By: Patricia Whelehanhttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/women%e2%80%99s-sexual-arousal-and-orgasm-are-not-automatic/#comment-621 Patricia Whelehan Mon, 02 Jan 2012 10:09:25 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.com/?p=1651#comment-621 I would like to comment on one aspect of your story. Men's orgasm is NOT necessary for reproduction; ejaculation is. Male orgasm and ejaculation are physiologically separate events. That they often occur spontaneously in adolescent and younger adult me and are perceived to be the same are not equivalent to a identical physiological process. There is also controversy and literature discussing the role of female orgasm to reproductive success. Helen Fisher has written about this. I would like to comment on one aspect of your story.

Men’s orgasm is NOT necessary for reproduction; ejaculation is. Male orgasm and ejaculation are physiologically separate events. That they often occur spontaneously in adolescent and younger adult me and are perceived to be the same are not equivalent to a identical physiological process.

There is also controversy and literature discussing the role of female orgasm to reproductive success. Helen Fisher has written about this.

]]> By: adminhttp://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/women%e2%80%99s-sexual-arousal-and-orgasm-are-not-automatic/#comment-755 admin Mon, 02 Jan 2012 07:00:19 +0000 http://www.wayswomenorgasm.com/?p=1651#comment-755 Apparently a significant proportion (36%) of women in Kinsey’s sample claimed not to use any form of erotic stimulation while masturbating. One assumes that this must also be true for small children who masturbate apparently to orgasm. It can hardly be supposed that young children will be aware of the explicit sexual scenarios typically used by adults. Naturally as a woman who has only EVER masturbated to orgasm through the highly focused use of fantasy, I am curious. Men certainly seem to use some form of erotic stimulation (either porn or fantasy) while they are masturbating. This makes sense since, in the absence of a partner, one lacks any alternative real-life psychological stimulation or turn-ons. Is it possible that we are talking about different experiences? Apparently a significant proportion (36%) of women in Kinsey’s sample claimed not to use any form of erotic stimulation while masturbating. One assumes that this must also be true for small children who masturbate apparently to orgasm. It can hardly be supposed that young children will be aware of the explicit sexual scenarios typically used by adults.

Naturally as a woman who has only EVER masturbated to orgasm through the highly focused use of fantasy, I am curious. Men certainly seem to use some form of erotic stimulation (either porn or fantasy) while they are masturbating. This makes sense since, in the absence of a partner, one lacks any alternative real-life psychological stimulation or turn-ons.

Is it possible that we are talking about different experiences?

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