If a woman is open-minded to the idea of exploring eroticism, she should start by reading some erotic literature. I suggest:
'Emmanuelle' by Emmanuelle Arsan: relates the sexual adventures of young women;
'The Happy Hooker' by Xaviera Hollander: describes the author's experiences of pleasuring men as a high-class prostitute and the madam of a brothel; and
'The Story of O' by Pauline...
Sexual arousal is a mental state that arises when the mind responds to PSYCHOLOGICAL stimuli (of an erotic or sexual nature). Sexual arousal is evidenced by PHYSICAL phenomena such as increased blood flow to the erectile organ (penis/clitoris).
Both sexes can express their sexuality through sexual arousal and orgasm but since men's arousal happens spontaneously (beyond their conscious control), the...
Reading the word ‘sexy’, a boy of nine screwed up his face in a gesture of disgust and said “Yuck!”. I asked him why and he replied, “Because my parents told me it’s disgusting”. Presumably these parents are trying to warn their son away from the temptations of sexual pleasure with its associated immoral behaviour.
For women, there has always...
Unless they masturbate, most women are unaware that clitoral stimulation is needed for female orgasm. Equally, they are unaware that before genital stimulation can be effective, a person needs to know how to achieve true sexual arousal, which depends on an appreciation of eroticism (images for men; scenarios for women).
From puberty onwards men's sexual arousal (as evidenced by an...
I'm sure that men will understand the point. We express our sexuality through two basic phenomena:
Firstly, enjoying our own PSYCHOLOGICAL arousal by appreciating eroticism; and
Secondly, bringing our sexual arousal to orgasm by PHYSICAL stimulation of the genitals.
Yet many women are shocked by eroticism (whether visual or verbal pornography, erotica or the concept of sexual fantasy) and equally shocked by...
Pornography is defined to be 'sexually explicit material (verbal or pictorial) that is primarily designed to produce sexual arousal'.
Two women give their views on pornography.
Helen Longino, the American philosopher: "I define pornography as verbal or pictorial explicit representations of sexual behavior that ... have as a distinguishing characteristic 'the degrading and demeaning portrayal of the role and status of...
Angela, a woman in her early twenties, was having relationship problems with her boyfriend of six months. She was upset that he enjoyed looking at other women. She got him to agree to stop buying pornographic magazines, which she found demeaning.
”Porn to men is not a big deal. They honestly can’t see how watching a sexy film can be...