Ways Women Orgasm

Orgasm during sex

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Unfortunately, modern day sexology is not a science based on facts and logic but more a collection of beliefs and opinions.

One expert will claim that all women orgasm by the age of 19; another asserts 30. Some say that clitoral stimulation is needed for orgasm and others that clitoral stimulation is irrelevant to female orgasm.

If female orgasm is so easy, then why do so many people ask about how women orgasm? No one EVER asks about male orgasm.

Orgasm involves a release of sexual tension that is built up as a person becomes aroused. Even for a woman, a true orgasm is followed by a period of resolution before another orgasm is possible.

In fact the link between clitoral stimulation and female orgasm comes NOT from women’s experience of sex BUT from female masturbation.

The discussion of orgasm during sex covers the following:

  • CLITORAL STIMULATION: clitoral stimulation does lead to female orgasm during female masturbation BUT ….
  • SEXUAL FANTASIES: FIRST a woman needs to focus on sexual fantasies to become aroused enough for orgasm.
  • ORGASM TECHNIQUES: so women are likely to find orgasm during sex more elusive than during female masturbation.

Women’s orgasm techniques

Ways Women Orgasm presents the orgasm techniques (often suppressed by other sources) that women use to orgasm during sex in terms that women who are familiar with orgasm from masturbation can relate to.

(1) Clitoral stimulation is needed for female orgasm…

“… certainly, it is easier for most women to be orgasmic during masturbation than during intercourse. … For most women, masturbation involves some form of stimulation of the clitoris, whereas with intercourse, the clitoris is only stimulated indirectly, …” (p587 Human Sexuality (fifth edition) 1995)

If the answer to achieving female orgasm were as simple as providing PHYSICAL stimulation, there wouldn’t be a problem in the first place. After all this isn’t rocket science. When a man is sexually aroused, he knows which body part to stimulate.

“Many women indicated that they could not even suggest that their male partner was not satisfying them because if they did he would just fall apart. I felt a little insulted by that. I’m a big boy. If I’m not stimulating your clitoris correctly or whatever, tell me. I can handle that. I think most men can.” (p182 The Hite Reports – 1993)

(2) BUT clitoral stimulation by itself (whether by the woman or her partner) does not guarantee female orgasm. Why not?

Unlike men, most women do not approach sex just short of an orgasm. So even a woman who masturbates does not necessarily consider stimulating her clitoris during sex with a partner simply because she is not MENTALLY aroused enough for genital stimulation to make sense. Genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused.

“Few of us reach orgasm without fantasy …” (p13 Hot Sex 1998)

Since the naked body of a sexual partner does not cause a woman to become aroused enough to orgasm, she is likely to need to use her sexual fantasies during sex. The truth is that a woman is lucky if she finds even ONE way to orgasm.

Excerpt from Ways Women Orgasm (ISBN 978−095689−4700 published 2011)

2 comments for “Orgasm during sex

  1. admin
    July 14, 2015 at 8:00 am

    Mary Roach, is a American columnist and popular science writer. She talks about some of the questionable claims of sex researchers. Read on: 10 things you didn’t know about orgasm

  2. pasaway_na_angel
    July 14, 2015 at 6:21 pm

    Sex for women and men varies in such a way as Women are psycho­lo­gical and emotional while Men are biological.

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