Ways Women Orgasm

Orgasm during sex

Unfor­tu­nately, modern day sexology is not a science based on facts and logic but more a collec­tion of beliefs and opinions.

One expert will claim that all women orgasm by the age of 19; another asserts 30. Some say that clit­oral stim­u­la­tion is needed for orgasm and others that clit­oral stim­u­la­tion is irrel­evant to female orgasm.

If female orgasm is so easy, then why do so many people ask about how women orgasm? No one EVER asks about male orgasm.

Orgasm involves a release of sexual tension that is built up as a person becomes aroused. Even for a woman, a true orgasm is followed by a period of resol­u­tion before another orgasm is possible.

In fact the link between clit­oral stim­u­la­tion and female orgasm comes NOT from women’s exper­i­ence of sex BUT from female masturbation.

The discus­sion of orgasm during sex covers the following:

  • CLITORAL STIMULATION: clit­oral stim­u­la­tion does lead to female orgasm during female masturb­a­tion BUT .…
  • SEXUAL FANTASIES: FIRST a woman needs to focus on sexual fantasies to become aroused enough for orgasm.
  • ORGASM TECHNIQUES: so women are likely to find orgasm during sex more elusive than during female masturbation.

Women’s orgasm techniques

Ways Women Orgasm presents the orgasm tech­niques (often suppressed by other sources) that women use to orgasm during sex in terms that women who are familiar with orgasm from masturb­a­tion can relate to.

(1) Clit­oral stim­u­la­tion is needed for female orgasm…

“… certainly, it is easier for most women to be orgasmic during masturb­a­tion than during inter­course. … For most women, masturb­a­tion involves some form of stim­u­la­tion of the clit­oris, whereas with inter­course, the clit­oris is only stim­u­lated indir­ectly, …” (p587 Human Sexu­ality (fifth edition) 1995)

If the answer to achieving female orgasm were as simple as providing PHYSICAL stim­u­la­tion, there wouldn’t be a problem in the first place. After all this isn’t rocket science. When a man is sexu­ally aroused, he knows which body part to stimulate.

“Many women indic­ated that they could not even suggest that their male partner was not satis­fying them because if they did he would just fall apart. I felt a little insulted by that. I’m a big boy. If I’m not stim­u­lating your clit­oris correctly or whatever, tell me. I can handle that. I think most men can.” (p182 The Hite Reports — 1993)

(2) BUT clit­oral stim­u­la­tion by itself (whether by the woman or her partner) does not guar­antee female orgasm. Why not?

Unlike men, most women do not approach sex just short of an orgasm. So even a woman who masturb­ates does not neces­sarily consider stim­u­lating her clit­oris during sex with a partner simply because she is not MENTALLY aroused enough for genital stim­u­la­tion to make sense. Genital stim­u­la­tion only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused.

“Few of us reach orgasm without fantasy …” (p13 Hot Sex 1998)

Since the naked body of a sexual partner does not cause a woman to become aroused enough to orgasm, she is likely to need to use her sexual fantasies during sex. The truth is that a woman is lucky if she finds even ONE way to orgasm.

Excerpt from Ways Women Orgasm (ISBN 978−095689−4700 published 2011)

1 comment for “Orgasm during sex

  1. admin
    September 13, 2014 at 8:00 am

    Mary Roach, is a Amer­ican colum­nist and popular science writer. She talks about some of the ques­tion­able claims of sex researchers. Read on: 10 things you didn’t know about orgasm

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