Unfortunately, modern day sexology is not a science based on facts and logic but more a collection of beliefs and opinions.

One expert will claim that all women orgasm by the age of 19; another asserts 30. Some say that clitoral stimulation is needed for orgasm and others that clitoral stimulation is irrelevant to female orgasm.

If female orgasm is so straightforward, then why do so many people ask about female orgasm? Claims of easy orgasm undermine women’s attempts to interpret their sexual experiences.

Men NEVER ask about orgasm because boys masturbate from a young age. Similarly men would never consider orgasm without stimulating their penis. Yet, as if they are more macho than men, women claim to orgasm without any clitoral stimulation whatsoever.

Female sexuality is surrounded by mystery and emotional claims. Sadly many people prefer not to face the facts, which are in direct contradiction with the fantasy of the easily orgasmic woman.

Ways Women Orgasm’s discussion of orgasm during sex covers the following:

• Clitoral stimulation: we know from female masturbation that clitoral stimulation is needed for female orgasm.
• Sexual fantasies: we also know from female masturbation that sexual fantasies are needed for female orgasm.
• Orgasm techniques: so women are likely to find orgasm during sex more elusive than during female masturbation.

Women’s orgasm techniques

Ways Women Orgasm presents those expert opinions (often suppressed by other sources) that help explain the sexual experiences of women who are familiar with orgasm from masturbation. In fact, the link between clitoral stimulation and female orgasm comes NOT from women’s experience of sex BUT from female masturbation. Relatively few women masturbate and so female orgasm is poorly understood even by women themselves.

(1) Clitoral stimulation is certainly needed for female orgasm…

“ … certainly, it is easier for most women to be orgasmic during masturbation than during intercourse. … For most women, masturbation involves some form of stimulation of the clitoris, whereas with intercourse, the clitoris is only stimulated indirectly, …” (p587 Human Sexuality (fifth edition) 1995)

If the answer to achieving female orgasm were as simple as providing PHYSICAL stimulation, there wouldn’t be a problem in the first place. After all this isn’t rocket science. When a man is sexually aroused, he knows which body part to stimulate.

“Many women indicated that they could not even suggest that their male partner was not satisfying them because if they did he would just fall apart. I felt a little insulted by that. I’m a big boy. If I’m not stimulating your clitoris correctly or whatever, tell me. I can handle that. I think most men can.” (p182 The Hite Reports – 1993)

(2) BUT clitoral stimulation by itself (whether by the woman or her partner) does not guarantee female orgasm. Why not?

Unlike men, most women do not approach sex just short of an orgasm. So even a woman who masturbates does not necessarily consider stimulating her clitoris during sex with a partner simply because she is not MENTALLY aroused enough for genital stimulation to make sense. Genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused.

“Few of us reach orgasm without fantasy …” (p13 Hot Sex 1998)

Even during female masturbation, clitoral stimulation is only effective when combined with the use of sexual fantasies. Since women do not become sexually aroused by the naked body of a sexual partner (as men do), they are likely to need to use fantasies during sex. The truth is that a woman is lucky if she finds even ONE way to orgasm.