Ways Women Orgasm

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How we enjoy our best orgasms

our best orgasms

Shere Hite iden­ti­fied two main approaches that women used to increase clit­oral stim­u­la­tion and their chances of orgasm during inter­course. They either maxim­ised DIRECT clit­oral stim­u­la­tion by using masturb­a­tion during sex or they used posi­tions and tech­niques for sexual inter­course that maxim­ised INDIRECT clit­oral stim­u­la­tion caused by the penis thrusting into the vagina.

“… orgasm is most likely to come when the woman takes over respons­ib­ility for

Clitoral stimulation is not everything

clitoral stimulation not everything

As long ago as the 1950s the clit­oris, and not the vagina, was acknow­ledged to be the origin of female orgasm. So that by the 1960s when Masters and Johnson explained female orgasm from inter­course alone, it was in terms of women finding posi­tions and tech­niques for sexual inter­course that maximise the indirect clit­oral stim­u­la­tion (caused by the penis thrusting into the vagina).

As sex therapist

Men’s sexual fantasies

men's sexual fantasies

In pursuit of know­ledge and under­standing of sexual arousal, I went to a large news­agent in London’s Oxford Street to review the covers of fifty or more porno­graphic magazines lined up on the top shelf. Over 90% were directed towards hetero­sexual men. Most of the remainder was male homo­sexual porno­graphy. The few porno­graphic magazines for women were for lesbians.

Although porno­graphy is labelled ‘adult’ as if this is

How do women achieve sexual arousal during sex?

sexual arousal during sex

Some women happily accept the modern media’s portrayal of women as complete sexual beings, for whom spon­tan­eously orgasmic sex is as much of a given as it is for a man.

Other women find that orgasms do not ‘just happen’. Pres­sure to find answers comes not only from the woman who hopes to enjoy what is supposed to be mutual sexual pleasure but also from her partner who

Transferring masturbation techniques to sex

applying orgasm techniques

Caroline lived on a farm as a child and was fortu­nate in having inno­cent and light-hearted sexual exper­i­ences as she grew up. Even as kids they would play the ‘I’ll show you mine if you show me yours’ game on the bus ride to school.

Her mother insisted that Caroline went on the pill at sixteen. She was not bothered about the sex. She simply wanted Caroline to be

Men’s sexual arousal is usually easy

men's sexual arousal

Young men wake up each morning with an erec­tion and have spon­tan­eous erec­tions throughout the day as sex-related thoughts occur to them or simply as a result of seeing someone they find attractive. A boy has no choice but to learn about his sexual arousal and orgasm but, for women, learning how to orgasm is a much more conscious process.

“What’s pink and hard first thing in

Very few women talk about orgasm

talk about sexual arousal

After finding no answers from talking to experts, I decided to do my own research by talking to women I came across in everyday life.

I wrote about some of my exper­i­ences and conclu­sions and then asked women whether they would be willing to read what I had written. I made it clear that there was no oblig­a­tion for reviewers to comment.

The first point to note