… is dedicated to women’s enjoyment of sexual pleasure and orgasm. The female sexuality forum discusses women’s orgasm techniques (clitoral stimulation & erotic turn-ons), helping women get more out of their sexual relationships with men, by promoting ideas for exploring more adventurous sex play.
|What real women say:Reality versus fiction. What real women say about sex and orgasm is very different to how women’s responsiveness is portrayed in pornography and other erotic fiction.||Orgasm techniques: Orgasm does not ‘just happen’! A woman has to use erotic turn-ons (just as men do) to achieve the kind of sexual arousal that leads to orgasm through clitoral stimulation.|
|The politics of sex: Sex often defies logic! Unfortunately discussions of female orgasm are typically aimed at providing turn-ons for men rather than being realistic accounts of how women truly orgasm.||Men & sex play: For the sexually adventurous! How couples can bring variety to their sex play by taking the focus off intercourse so that other activities become a more routine part of their sex life.|
|Women’s sexuality: The sexual responses of arousal and orgasm arise subconsiously. But sexual behaviours involve more conscious decisions: we choose how we will explore and enjoy our interaction with a lover.||Sexuality & techniques: A modern interpretation of Kinsey’s work on male and female sexuality. Plus how couples can make their sex life even better by understanding men and women’s different sexual and emotional needs.|
Given men represent the prime audience for sexual material of any kind, it is hardly surprising that modern media portray women responding to sexual scenarios as men think they ideally should! Sex is core to men’s emotional well-being so they struggle to accept the female perspective. Many women feel pressured into playing along with male fantasies.
No one can benefit from truths they are not ready to hear. The information I provide is for those who can appreciate it because they are looking for answers. No one can ‘give an orgasm’ to someone else. Before we can orgasm we must be aroused. Yet women’s ‘turn-ons’ are romantic (non-erotic). They are clearly confusing emotional sensations with true orgasm.
Orgasm comes at the end of sexual activity that is focused on achieving it. If women were just as responsive as men, then logically for about half the time sexual activity would end with a woman’s orgasm. So women’s lack of responsiveness is intentional because, for reproductive reasons, a woman has to be willing to allow intercourse to continue until a man ejaculates.
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