Ways Women Orgasm

Ways Women Orgasm

‘Ways Women Orgasm’ is dedic­ated to women’s enjoy­ment of sexual pleasure and orgasm. The female sexu­ality forum discusses women’s orgasm tech­niques (clit­oral stim­u­la­tion & erotic turn-ons), helping women get more out of their sexual rela­tion­ships with men, by promoting ideas for exploring more adven­turous sex play.

What real women say:

Reality versus fiction.

What real women say about sex and orgasm is very different to how women’s sexu­ality is portrayed in erotic fiction.
Orgasm tech­niques:

Orgasm does not ‘just happen’! A woman has to use erotic turn-ons (just as men do) to achieve the kind of sexual arousal that leads to orgasm through clit­oral stim­u­la­tion.
The politics of sex:

Sex often defies logic! Unfor­tu­nately discus­sions of female orgasm are typic­ally aimed at providing turn-ons for men rather than being real­istic accounts of how women truly orgasm.
Men & sex play:

For the sexu­ally adven­turous! How couples can bring variety to their sex play by taking the focus off inter­course so that other activ­ities become a more routine part of their sex life.
Women’s sexu­ality:

The sexual responses of arousal and orgasm arise subcon­siously. But sexual beha­viours involve more conscious decisions: we choose how we will explore and enjoy our inter­ac­tion with a lover.
Sexual tech­niques:
Jane’s next book ‘Sexu­ality & Sexual Tech­niques’ will be published in January 2015!

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There are count­less sources providing a porn-friendly, over-hyped view of women’s sexu­ality. My work is for worldly adults who accept that men and women’s emotional and sexual prior­ities differ espe­cially over time.

Any discus­sion of female orgasm is usually aimed at providing turn-ons for men rather than being real­istic descrip­tions of how women truly orgasm. I am chal­len­ging modern beliefs about female orgasm, which I believe are wrong.

If women can easily masturbate them­selves to orgasm during sex, why are so few men aware that the clit­oris is the source of female orgasm? But also why would any woman ever ask about orgasm with a lover?

If women can easily orgasm through cunni­lingus (oral sex), why do men complain that very few women will return the favour by offering fellatio? And again why would anyone ever ask about female orgasm with a lover?

Inter­course involves stim­u­la­tion of the vagina whereas female masturb­a­tion focuses on the clit­oris. If every woman masturb­ates, why do so few comment on the very different stim­u­la­tion provided by the two?

We’d rather base our ‘sexual know­ledge’ on fantasy and ignor­ance than the research find­ings. So it’s small wonder that both sexes end up feeling inad­equate and (even worse!) blaming a partner for not making sex as exciting as we think it should be!

Men cannot accept that inter­course appeals to them because they are male. They think some magic wand can make women want inter­course as much as they do. This explains why the G-spot has been so univer­sally promoted despite its total ineffectiveness.

I know we all want a man to think us the sexiest thing in the world but it is not helpful to have women’s sexu­ality defined in such a way that most women refuse to comment. Orgasm is not a rela­tion­ship accessory! It is a response to erotic stimuli that occurs because we ourselves (not our lovers) want it.