The forum discusses women’s orgasm techniques — clitoral stimulation & erotic turn-ons — and helps women get more out of their sexual relationships with men by promoting ideas for how couples can explore more adventurous sex play.
|What real women say: Reality versus fiction.What real women say about sex and orgasm is very different to how women’s sexuality is portrayed in erotic fiction.||Women’s orgasm techniques:
Orgasm does not ‘just happen’! A woman has to use erotic turn-ons (just as men do) to achieve the kind of sexual arousal that leads to orgasm through clitoral stimulation.
|The politics of sex:
Sex often defies logical analysis.The key difficulty is that discussions of female orgasm are typically aimed at providing turn-ons for men rather than being realistic accounts of how women truly orgasm.
|Men & sex play:
For the sexually adventurous! How couples can bring variety to their sex play by taking the focus off intercourse so that other activities become a more routine part of their sex life.
The sexual responses of arousal and orgasm arise in our subconsious mind. But our sexual behaviours are more conscious. We choose how we will explore and enjoy our own responses as well as those of a lover.
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JUST LETTING OFF SOME STEAM …
Everyone says they’re laid back about sex but no one ever SAYS anything. Then whatever you say they are offended or disagree. W.T.F. … you know … I don’t give a …! I’m not trying to please everyone.
People say they are offended … they say that we are all supposed to toe the line … they say we must always be politically correct. You know … I really don’t care… I am just telling it the way it is … and I am going to continue speaking out regardless of whether I offend grannies, the powers that be, the prudes …
There is no way that the status quo benefits anyone except those who make money out of other people’s insecurities. I try really hard NOT to offend anyone and I am sorry if someone somewhere is upset or feels marginalised. I hope that they will understand that there is a greater cause … honesty and realism.
I am simply asking women to be explicit. They all talk about romance and their loving relationship. I am saying that orgasm involves erotic stimuli quite distinct from any relationship we may have. I know we all want a man to think us the sexiest thing in the world but I am trying to provide realistic sexual expectations for those who care.
No two people think about sex in the same way. So however hard I try I can never hope to please everyone! I am challenging modern beliefs about female orgasm, which I believe are wrong. I am not simply telling people what they want to hear. I am presenting the research findings, which have never been popular because of the conflict with fantasies.
My expert references and explanations are free for those who appreciate how to use them to get more out of their sex life. It’s easy to criticise but bear in mind that this probably explains why few women volunteer to talk about sex and orgasm!