This forum discusses women’s orgasm techniques (clitoral stimulation & erotic turn-ons) and helps women get more out of their sexual relationships with men by promoting ideas for how couples can explore more adventurous sex play.
|What real women say:
Reality versus fiction.
What real women say about sex and orgasm is very different to how women’s sexuality is portrayed in erotic fiction.
|Women’s orgasm techniques:
Orgasm does not ‘just happen’!
|The politics of sex:
Sex often defies logical analysis.
|Men & sex play:
For the sexually adventurous!
The sexual responses of arousal and orgasm arise in our subconsious mind.
Jane’s next book ‘Sexuality & Sexual Techniques’ will be published in January 2015!
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PLEASE NOTE: No two people think about sex in the same way. So however hard I try I can never hope to please everyone! I am challenging modern beliefs about female orgasm, which I believe are wrong.
If women can easily masturbate themselves to orgasm during sex, why are so few men aware that the clitoris is the source of female orgasm? But also why would any woman ever ask about orgasm with a lover?
If women can easily orgasm through cunnilingus (oral sex), why do men complain that very few women will return the favour by offering fellatio? And again why would anyone ever ask about female orgasm with a lover?
Intercourse involves stimulation of the vagina whereas female masturbation focuses on the clitoris. If every woman masturbates, why do so few comment on the very different stimulation provided by the two?
We’d rather base our ‘sexual knowledge’ on fantasy and ignorance than the research findings. So it’s small wonder that both sexes end up feeling inadequate and (even worse!) blaming a partner for not making sex as exciting as we think it should be!
Men cannot accept that intercourse appeals to them because they are male. They think some magic wand can make women want intercourse as much as they do. This explains why the G-spot has been so universally promoted despite its total ineffectiveness.
I know we all want a man to think us the sexiest thing in the world but it is not helpful to have women’s sexuality defined in such a way that most women refuse to comment. Orgasm is not a relationship accessory! It is a response to erotic stimuli that occurs because we ourselves (not our lovers) want it.